A famous quote I once heard was, “If you blame others for your problems, do you credit them with your successes?” Of course not, we are always quick to blame others and easily as quick to take credit for our successes.
Why is that? Why is it so much easier to blame someone else for the problems we’ve caused? Why is it so much easier to use an excuse than to be honest about whose at fault?
The simple answer is, pride! We all want to feel special and we’ll do whatever it takes to make us feel special. Most of the time it’s by putting others down in order to inflate ourselves up. Or maybe we exaggerate the truth about something we did. Pride is so sneaky too, we can be doing it without even know it.
For example, I used to play baseball in Little League and was selected to play at Wrigley Field for the Southwest Michigan All-star game. Over the years, I’ve exaggerated this truth into I was an all-american, all-michigan baseball player.
I cringe as I write this because my pride still has a hard time letting this one go but it’s the truth. Why didn’t I just tell the truth? Well, I honestly didn’t feel all that special to begin with which is why I felt the need to exaggerate. I know so many people including myself, who have been through experiences that would make even the strongest people in the Bible feel like a nobody, unloved, abandoned, lonely, and unimportant.
We then attempt to distract ourselves from the problem through material things like putting others down, blaming others, using drugs, alcohol, pornography, sex, in order to ‘cure’ the problem. I can assure you that you will never find your true self worth in any of those things.
Do you want to know what really works? The only real and lasting cure to making you feel special is to have a relationship with God. You see, in God’s eyes you are his most beloved, his most precious and beautiful child that he made.
Have you ever watched your children sleep at night? Do you ever get the wonderful feeling of joy when you watch them sleep so peacefully? Quadruple that by a million and that is how God feels about you! He is the only one who can fill that tiny spot in your soul, the one that you just can’t seem to get rid of but long for.
Once you truly understand and realize this, than your life will be changed forever. You’ll no longer feel the need to constantly be blaming, comparing, or putting others down. You’ll experience a true satisfaction and peace that you’ve been waiting for your entire life.
Do you struggle with blaming others? What do you think is the reason people often blame others? Leave your comments below!