Based on Pastor Mark Driscoll’s Sermon: http://marshill.com/media/real-marriage/the-porn-path
1. Pornography creates an unhealthy father-daughter relationship.
Why you ask?
Many guys, like to look at younger girls, sadly this often means the younger the better. Watching the same images and videos containing these young girls gets imprinted in your brain over time and guess what?
When your daughter becomes that age, you begin to look at her and her friends in the same way. Instead of protecting her and being the supportive, loving father that God desired, you look awkwardly at her and her friends because you don’t understand why you have these sexual thoughts.
The truth is, many daughters grow up with fathers who entirely distanced themselves from them because of this problem, don’t be that dad.
2. Pornography is a fake reality that takes you further and further away from your problems.
Maybe this sounds good to you but hear me out, what happens when a person runs from their problems? Do they typically solve them on their own or do they get worse?
Pornography is just another outlet and escape from your day to day problems. Their are a million ways we try to escape the present reality of our situation, whether it be due to stress, personal problems, or even boredom, all pornography will do is make your problems worse in the long run.
3. Pornography involves many women who were forced into the business directly or indirectly.
Many women are young, sexually abused, and drugged when they go into the porn business. Sexual exploitation is common in the pornography business and every time you visit a pornographic website, you are supporting it (regardless of whether you pay).
It’s easy to look at pornography from your own perspective, but ask yourself, if you were a father or mother would you want your child going into the porn business? Probably not..
4. Pornography changes your brain.
Scientists are discovering more and more that a person that continually engages in pornography activates the same pathway as those people doing Heroin or Cocaine.
Not only that, when a man or woman continually uses pornography as a way to get pleasure, it begins to create new neural pathways that get stronger the more they are reinforced. This sets up the dangerous path to addiction.
5. Pornography is devastating to God.
He hurts every time you watch it because he knows what is best for you and pornography simply does nothing for you.
6. Pornography hurts marriages.
Pornography is not beneficial in any shape or form for a marriage, even if both people consent too it. Pornography is about lust, pure and simple.
This is especially true for guys who get aroused even if a random girl says hi to them, don’t laugh, its true. Pornography is basically that on steroids, any guy that says he is just watching it to get tips for sex, or just to watch it for educational purposes, or for the relationship, its a bunch of non-sense, they are lying.
You wonder why so many marriages end up in divorce? Pornography is the hidden secret that you probably don’t know about. You are training yourself to lust, pure and simple.
7. Pornography turns women into sex objects.
Women were not built to have a relationship built entirely on sex and neither were men, however, the porn business depicts that exact reality.
This of course creates expectations in a guy’s head that because the girl I just watched on a porn video is “willing” to have sex for nothing, no emotional attachment, no love, then my girlfriend or spouse will do the same.
And you wonder why guys abuse women when they disagree with them for not having sex, or turning them down because she wants to talk instead of having sex, porn creates this dangerous reality.
The truth is, pornography hurts more people than you realize, if you care about your family, your wife or husband, your children, yourself, and God, surely one of these reasons would be enough to give it up, trust me, I’ve been there.
What do you think about the author’s arguments against pornography?
Blessings,
Peter
I love this.I wish many people will read dis nd digest it buh unfortunately people hate to hear d truth.I love these points they r gud outputs.
This article is satire, right? It’s utterly ridiculous! I love the comments praising it to speak the truth too… Here’s a few truths for you lovely people…
1. BIOLOGY creates uncomfortable father-daughter relations. I would love to see the sources for your census on the amount of fathers who have sexual thoughts and feelings for their daughters and their friends. I’m not sure if you’re aware, but men and women are different. Through the developmental stages of puberty, men often don’t know what to do or how to handle it, so it often falls on the mother. With the rising rates of divorce and abandoning fathers, it’s no wonders why there’s unhealthy father-daughter relationships. However, very, VERY little men struggle with finding their daughter to be a possible sexual partner.
2. Porn isn’t an escape. It’s a tool. A form of entertainment used in the act of masturbation, a technique that’s quite commonly known to relieve stress and ease sexual tension and frustration. No one’s running from their problems into jiggly DDs. They don’t hide from their student loans or medical bills by rubbing one out. At most, they’ll do the five finger tango because of some marital or relationship issues, but that is the only case that it’d be an escape.
3. I love when people use this… WRONG! A professional pornography setting, just like in all film, requires 3 things: a background check, signed and notarized documents, and specific guidelines (including consent forms), payment rates, and rules. There is even the additional testing of… STDS! Yes! Every professional and paid porn star HAS TO CLEAR AN STD TEST. Amateur/bulls*** porn is filmed entirely of the people’s own regulations. That stuff, sure
4. Why is there no quotes or sourcing for this ground breaking study? Seriously, if someone discovered this, it would be rather news covered, don’t you think? At least ONE credible journal must have SOMETHING, right?
5. Honey, God is ashamed of a lot of things you do. Enjoying what he gave you isn’t going to hurt you more than anything else. Besides, you just pray for forgiveness and you’re golden. God’s forgiving and convenient like that, remember?
6. I love this one too! Alright, are you ready? Because… this one is… Wrong! What hurts marriages is that people typically have different views on porn and tend to do it secretly. The thing that hurts marriages is: insecurity! The subject of porn in hurting a relationship always stems from two things: a lack of interest or a lack of trust. It’s not unreasonable to think people would think that because someone views porn that they’re not sexually attracted anymore, but, like in most cases, this normally isn’t true. The lack of trust, I still don’t fully understand, but I believe it stems from doubts that both partners failed to expose and indulge in all of each other’s sexual kinks and fantasies.
7. The most blatantly incorrect thing on the list is this. Porn turns EVERYTHING into sex objects, because… that’s the point! It’s about SEX! The idea that women are the only one’s subjected is ridiculous. Men are just as much subjected, but the cultural norm dictates that the only truly suitable genre is heterosexual porn aimed towards men. That’s simply because people coughChristianscough push harder and harder than anything other than being heterosexual is unthinkable and unreasonable to consider. Thus the push for homosexual, transexual, masturbation, etc. genres for porn are highly ignored aside from those who loon intentionally for them. (Except lesbian porn)
Hi Rollan,
Thanks for your comments, I’ll try and address each one of them.
1. You are right that biology predicates an uncomfortable father/daughter relationship as a result of genetic similarities and likelihood that any sexual relations between the two would result in a statistically higher chance that the offspring would have problems. HOWEVER, the point that Mark Driscoll is making is that their thoughts become hypersexualized which even with the biological tendencies, still creates ambivalent thoughts and/or confusion that might strain the father-daughter relationship.
2. “Porn isn’t an escape. It’s a tool.” If its a tool Rollan, than its a tool used for a purpose. What is porn often used for? To relieve stress..yes. To escape from the reality of high student loan debt…yes, to escape from the reality of medical bills…yes, to escape from marriage or relationship problems…yes. The point is, porn is an escape from reality, its the same reason why so many people run to alcohol and other drugs but its convenient for you to label it as a tool as that will somehow change its implications.
3. “A professional porn setting.” That might be true in the United States Rollan but human trafficking in the porn industry occurs all over and countries like Thailand, Phillipines, and other third world countries don’t recognize any of those formal procedures that you’ve said. You are simply turning a blind eye to this fact.
4. Read this…http://healingfromgod.com/if-youve-ever-watched-porn-read-this/
I’ve compiled a list of reputable journal articles about porn and its effects on the brain.
5. Your logic is, God is ashamed of a lot of things I do…so enjoy it anyways. Hmm…ok.
6. “someone views porn that they’re not sexually attracted anymore, but, like in most cases, this normally isn’t true.” So your saying that people who view porn are still attracted to their mate despite viewing men and women who are often more attractive than their partner?
This is where the insecurity arises (your claim as the main marriage problem). It wouldn’t matter if both mates shared the same views because biologically we are designed to compare ourselves with others and when A looks better than B, well guess what, your going to be more attracted to A regardless of B. You will also undoubtedly find an “A” that is more attractive than your partner.
7. Since when is turning people into objects a good thing to begin with regardless of how the Church, society, or how any other norms influence our views on gender and pornography?
Antipornography.org
Fightthenewdrug.org
Enjoy the reads Rolland
Pornharms.org
Adding to Rollan’s reading list.
Thanks Emanon.
I agree with this .Watching pornography is waste of time and very injurious to health.