How To Fully Accept God’s Love Into Your Heart

accepting gods love

In the last article we went over three signs that might indicate that you are having trouble fully accepting God’s love into your heart.

We looked at Saul’s life and how his compulsiveness, jealousy, and insecurity showed that he had difficulties fully trusting and accepting God’s love completely.

When I was reading this scripture I began to think to myself, “God must feel like this every single day. He showers us daily with blessings yet we still doubt His love for us, we still worry about everything under the sun, and we still search for other things to satisfy our deep, quenching thirst for His love.

Thank goodness that God is patient with us and so loving that He will continue to work on us till the day He calls us home.

So what practical steps can we take to transform our hearts where we begin to actually believe that God loves us?

Especially after we’ve been hurt so much by people’s sinful actions that we feel like we can no longer trust anyone, be loved by anyone, or can depend on anyone.

I believe the key to this is to recognize how you think about yourself, talk to yourself, and treat yourself.

Have you ever noticed that what you think about yourself, how you talk to yourself, and how you treat yourself dictates how you feel about yourself?

Not only that but those thoughts then carry over into actions, which set yourself up to reinforce those thoughts and feelings.  If you think that you are unlovable chances are that you will do stuff that makes you even more unlovable to others.

If you feel that you can’t trust yourself or trust others then you find yourself avoiding circumstances, people, or challenges that might otherwise help you grow more as a person making you lose even more trust in yourself and others.

How you think of yourself dictates everything in your life. I personally think the reason that makes it so hard to believe that we are loved by God is because of people’s failures in our life growing up.

If you came from a broken home such as divorce, if you had an abusive childhood, if your father was always away and never spent time with you, its likely that you began to believe that you were not loved.

The logic of this thinking derives because its easier for us to believe the lie that it had something to do with ourselves, not others. Why? Because if something is wrong with us then we can gives us a false sense of control.

Unfortunately, this is misguided thinking. For one, there is nothing wrong with you in the eyes of the Lord. Jesus Christ died for you and his incredible sacrifice demonstrates just how much you are loved and forever will be.

So basically, you were always loved by God no matter what happened in your life and that will never change that fact.

The other problem with this misguided thinking is that its easier to think that something is wrong with me instead of maybe thinking someone else simply made a choice to do whatever it is they did that hurt you or made you feel that way.

We can’t control what people do or say to us, people are sinful and even the best christian parents, family, and friends will make mistakes and hurt us.

However, that doesn’t change who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are defined by God and nothing else. Once you begin to truly accept that in your heart, you will begin to fully accept God’s amazing love for you.

Do you struggle with fully accepting God’s love? Let me know your thoughts below.






  • Darla says:

    This article helped me alot, because I was always so sad, and confused, and I am a young lady just turned 21 and I work, I live alone, I am doing good so far on my own, and I always feel so miserable, and I always tell God I accept him , and love him, and I go to church when I can, but I always feel sad, and scared.

    But I completely understand now, and I am grateful, and I will take the time to heal myself.

    Thank you for this !!

  • April says:

    Thank you so much for writing this article. This was very insightful and helpful. God bless you.

  • Jim Fox says:

    Please pray that I would understand and embrace Gods love for me.

  • Leonard says:

    I was in prayer when I asked for greater insight on why I had been having bouts of intense anxiety or feeling I lost my life.

    The response was almost immediate, “You do not accept God’s love for you.” My search to understand the fullness of this has led me here. Thank you for the ideas in this article. I believe there’s more to my case than here but it’s a good start.

    I know my unacceptance in my heart is not a cognitive thing or a thought pattern. It is truly a closed off heart for fear of punishment and a doubt that I am worthy of God’s love.

    Doubt is insidious and works well denial. I think consistent and persistent affirmation is necessary to overcome these detrimental habits of mind and body.

    • Peter says:

      Totally agree Leonard, for me it was absolutely cognitive since I intellectualized everything out of fear that I wasn’t worthy since I had been rejected by my own mother at birth. What you are mentioning with consistent affirmation I think is entirely scripture based as well, “The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.” Romans 8:6

    • Peter says:

      Have you seen a difference in your life by utilizing consistent affirmation in your battle with anxiety?

  • I feel like I’m dead on the inside. I can’t hear,see or feel God. I don’t if I’m saved and don’t desire to go to my church where I feel like a outsider looking in. I feel my heart is dirty. I’ve was told I couldn’t do some work in the church about 24 years ago because I was in a second marriage and it hurt me so bad that it made me feel not good enough and I was going to die and be lost.. the way I was treated made me think God was out to get me and I have never been able to get passed that.

  • Lisa says:

    Hello dear Lorraine
    You are NOT alone !! Maybe we feel we aren’t good enough so somehow the enemy can lock us in this cage …Are we happy like this ??? I’m struggling with the same type of feelings and I want to win this battle or let God win it for me !! I picture Jesus in the garden … overcoming the enemy …WOW Alleluia !!
    Hey we are beautiful women of God and HE LOVES us that’s sure Don’t let any body take it away from you ….

  • Heather says:

    Thank you for your article. Before I forget, could you please rely with the link to the article you were referring to (3 things signs you are struggling with Gods love) .
    I have struggled with trusting and staying in Gods love ever since I first asked Jesus into my life when I was 21 (45 now).
    I’ve had beautiful encounters with Jesus, hearing his voice, visions, dreams, a changed heart, deliverance of sins and bondages. God has been so faithful.
    But still, I struggle. I always end up fearing again that somehow I messed it up, or will mess it up.
    I sometimes “feel” a sense of dread, or “feel” like i’m separate from Him.
    This morning I searched for “how to deeply accept the love of God” and found your blog.
    I need to surrender all my
    “I wills” and trust that “HE WILL”
    HE WILL finish what he started.
    HE WILL never leave me or forsake me.
    HE WILL go and prepare a place for me.
    HE WILL make me an overcomer.
    HE WILL renew my strength.
    HE WILL rescue me.
    HE WILL rebuke the devourer.
    HE WILL set me free.
    This is fun, I can go on and on!
    So obviously, God is giving me breakthrough as I write a comment!!
    I need this! FOCUS ON HE WILL instead of I WILL!!
    God bless you brother.

  • River says:

    I always struggle with accepting God’s love. Between being abused since infancy to my mid 20s, my parents’ divorce and mother’s subsequent remarriage to my now ex-stepfather, and my various mental illnesses and neurodivergence, I have never ever felt God’s love. I can remember praying for abuse to stop and nothing stopped until I ran away to be with my now spouse. God never answered me. I had to rescue myself.

    A year into my Christian walk, I can safely say that even when being baptized, I didn’t feel God’s love. There is *always* this looming sense of doom that is at the back of my mind. I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

    It’s this constant cloud over my shoulder and I don’t know if it’s ever going to go away. Is there hope for some one like me? Or am I SOL?

  • Debra Hendricks says:

    Oh River, you are not SOL. No one is hopeless. Nothing can separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus (Romans 8 38-39) Just reach to God who says “I have loved you with an everlasting love.”
    He is always with you.
    You need the company of Christians who can support you in love. We all need it.

    I too struggle with anxiety relative to feeling unloved. I was told it is Satan, the accuser of the brethren who constantly points us to our faults and shortcomings so that we feel unworthy of God’s love. He doesn’t want us to grow in grace and knowledge of our Lord and saviour, nor to pray. He tries to uproot our comfort every chance he gets.

    God however points us to his Son as proof of His love. We are accepted in the Beloved. Just ask him to remind us of his promises. The Holy Spirit encourages prayer. Shout those promises and declarations of love at that old devil when he accuses.

    Pray for constant reminders of His love, and focus on it, NOT on yourself. Look at the hand that rescues you from the waves, not the storms and circumstances surrounding you. (As Heather said in her post.)

    God bless and root and ground us in love. It is His will to do so.


    I too had problems with fully accepting God’s love for me. Low self-esteem and self-worth made it difficult for me to think anyone could ever love me. Through a series of negative events, disappointments, abuse, feelings of rejection, being an introvert, and shy, I internalized my pain and covered it with smiling a lot, while hiding my struggles. It took over 40 years after giving my heart to the Lord to overcome accepting God’s love for me. I still have challenges with the love of God especially when I feel rejection. Thank God through His grace, mercy, and compassion, I have finally come to the place of accepting God’s unconditional love for me. It wasn’t easy, but God patiently guided me through the process of embracing me with His love.

  • Lisa von Kaenel says:

    Hello Shirley

    Well done : not easy to acknowledge it was a long way … It’s sooo important to share this : I ‘m still struggling to realise how much God loves me but I’m also getting there .. Let’s keep it up !!
    GOD IS LOVE He can’t do anything that wouldn’t express His love !
    Let’s rejoice and share !
    Amen and amen!

  • Mario says:

    thanks for your article Peter,ive been sober ib AA 37 yrs,i’m sober only by the Grace of God(Jesus)i’m 69yrs old.
    i had a bad trip on LDS when i was 15,it told me i’m ugly never amount to anything ,like the devil writting that in my soul,thats my stuggles
    im very active in AA.reach out to other drunks.
    l’m a sex addict too,im thrying to overcome that too in Sex Addicts Anynomous, and Jesus help,im doing better on that but im weak sometimes
    God help me to accept self as I am pray for me Mario P

  • Deanna smith says:

    I struggle with accepting Gods love for me because of childhood trauma and abuse. One of the things I’m struggling with and the devil is taunting me with is…I’ve asked God to heal me, I was told by a holy man that I was healed and believed God for it but only to get test results back saying that I wasn’t. I pray, fast, attend church every week; I don’t curse, drink etc. I’m not saying all that to say I’m the perfect Christian. I’m saying this to say; why isn’t what I believe in the bible happening. If by his stripes I’m healed why aren’t I. if I have faith as small as a mustard seed ( which I believe I do) why cant I move mountains etc. So the only conclusion I can come up with is; part of me does not believe and trust him as I should. It hurts me to know that I struggle here. I don’t know what to do. All I can do is pray that one day I get to the play I need to be.

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