How To Let Go Of Someone You Love

how to let go of someone you love

Turning the page isn’t easy. Often times we get stuck on the same page, the story that brought us so many moments of joy and love. Staying on the same page is the hope and longing that maybe they will come back, maybe things will turn out differently, maybe they will change their minds. The truth is, by continuing to stay there we miss out on the stories around us that have the potential to be as life changing as the ones we experienced. Sometimes God brings people into our lives and just like that, similar to a wind pushing them from behind, God briskly takes them away. All we can do is trust, and have faith that God is opening a new chapter in our life that is even more beautiful.

I wrote that recently after a heartbreak and one of the most difficult things in life is losing someone you truly love.

If there’s a kind of heartbreak that has been universally felt by countless people across all cultures in the world, it is the heartbreak of a breakup. There’s nothing quite like the pain of the knowledge that the one you love is no longer yours. As impossible as it may seem, there’s nothing you can truly do but come to terms with the breakup, let go of the situation, and focus on healing, so that you can move on and become a stronger person through it all.

The process is not completely dependent on you, however. It can be easy to accept all the responsibility for your healing so that you have an excuse to wallow in self-pity for however long you want.

But the truth is that God is the only one who can fill the void you feel after a breakup. He is the one who repairs our souls, and we are just the vessels He uses to make that happen. Heather Lindsey advises, “Let not make any more excuses of ‘easier said than done.’ Let’s instead say, God—I trust you.”

Letting Go…We must do all we can to help facilitate our healing, while still relying wholly on God.

Here are five ways that, according to Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, can help us to do just that:

1. Understand that the breakup may be the best thing for you.

Grief can often cloud our judgment so much that we can’t see the bigger picture unfolding in our lives. After all, how could something as terrible and emotionally draining as this possibly play a part in God’s plan for our lives? God has been using pain to yield glory since the beginning of time, and He continues to do so in our lives today.

Despair teaches us to hope. Suffering teaches us to rejoice. When we realize that our situations shape us in ways we cannot see, it becomes easier to accept the hurt now, if only to grow later.

2. Accept that you did the best you could in your relationship.

After a breakup, it can be tempting to pin the blame on the likeliest victim, even if it’s yourself. But this reaction solves nothing; it only stirs up all kinds of negativity and regrets that need to be resolved if you are ever to move on. The end of a relationship is not your fault; it was part of an uncontrollable series of events that, believe it or not, God is using to build you up in faith. The sooner you reach acceptance, the better.

3. Decide what needs to change in your life.

If we become self-absorbed in depression, we can become stagnant in our walk with Christ and in our lives in general. We may not even mean to; it is simply the natural effect of a life-altering event. It is more than okay to break down, to think about what happened, to feel, for lack of a better term, sad. But eventually, when you are ready to heal, you have to make a change. You have to shift your attention from the breakup to something much more enjoyable and fulfilling to engage in.

4. Accept your lack of control.

The most frustrating part to come to terms with is, without a doubt, the fact that all of this is happening, and you cannot control it. No matter how many texts you send, how many tears you shed, how many times you try to bargain with God, the damage has already been done. Even if you do manage to beg your love back, your heart cannot be as it was before. You can’t change what has already happened, and you cannot change someone else’s mind. Instead of trying, focus on things that you can change, like your own outlook on life and dependence on God.

5. Get spiritually refreshed.

Of course, the one thing that remains constant in every trial is the steadfast love of Jesus Christ. He is the remedy for every single aftershock of this massive earthquake called a breakup. He has experienced every struggle you can name; loneliness, frustration, sadness, betrayal, and even death. He knows that despite the trouble of this world, true joy can be found in following Him.

If you feel dead inside, chances are that you need to be spiritually refreshed. If you haven’t been going to church, why not get back in the habit? Read the Word, and pray constantly. 

My Personal Experience:

When I moved out to California I did so for my ex-girlfriend. I loved her a lot, I had plans to marry her and I did my very best to make our relationship work but in the end it wasn’t enough. When she broke up with me for another guy, I was devastated.

I had no friends or support because all of my friends were basically her friends. I was honestly all alone. So what did I do?

Besides going through a storm of thoughts (What’s wrong with me? What did I do? What could I have done differently?) and emotions (sadness, fear, anger), I turned to the only one who I had, God. Over the next 6 months I decided to dedicate myself to the most important relationship we’ll ever know, our relationship with God.

As I look back now, I realize that it was during that time period that I have never felt closer to God. Despite the pain that would come and go and then come right back again, I also was filled with an unmistakeable peace and joy knowing that I wasn’t alone through this and that I could trust that God had a plan for me.

The truth is, sometimes relationships don’t work no matter how hard we try because God simply wants us to be closer to Him. Its not easy, its painful, its terrifying to let go but I can assure you that when you truly experience God’s peace in your life, when you take that first step or when your down on your knees and have nothing left to give, that is when God rescues us.

Freedom is found only in surrender. Jeanne Doyon puts it this way:

With that step of faith, he will reveal his power in us and through us to handle whatever comes our way.

What has your experiences been like with a break up? Has it helped you move closer to God? 





  • Anonymous says:

    Thank you

    • ariel coger says:

      I was so lonely I pray for God to send me someone I love this man moved in with me we live together for a year he had been in a relationship with another woman for a 19 years they had broken up he got upset with me and went back with her now he’s back in my life tell me that he love both of us I love him so much I don’t know how to let go I’m asking God to hear me

  • Anonymous says:

    Jesus was only my hope and glory during my breakup.

    • Anonymous says:

      Im married for a year an 8 months together with her for 3 yrs seeing therapist to make myself better . changing my ways for me . im moving out march 15th. An thats it
      Im destroyed as i did this to myself.

  • Lace says:

    Very nice! Thank you. My friend just went thru a break up they’ve been together for 7years and it is so hard for her to go thru this rough situation. I sent him this and her reply was “thank you sis it helped”… thank you

    • Peter says:

      Aww, I’m so glad this helped your friend. Will be lifting up some prayers for her.

      Take care,


      • Katherine says:

        Hi! I’m still awake @ 3am. I need God to heal me and help me to let go. I can’t do this alone. I’m struggling right now I never learned my lesson to fall for the wrong man. Lord forgive me for not listening to you.

        • Peter says:

          Hi Katherine,

          Just wanted to let you know my thoughts and prayers are with you right now. Praying that God brings peace, comfort and strength.


      • Sherri says:

        I so need to talk with someone. I am having such a hard time letting go. I know I have to so why do I break down and beg him to love me?

      • Nancy says:

        Hi. Thank you for this article. Im actually in the process of letting go of someone i should have let go a long time ago yet i find myself going back to him. Im hurting because i dont wanna let go. Im holding on too tight im hurting myself at the same time. Please help pray for me that i will be able to really do it this time. Relationship has been going downhill.

    • Heartbroken says:

      Thank you for this article. I’ve been praying since lastnight. The tears haven’t stopped. The pain continues. I just wish this feeling was over.

      • Peter says:


        One of the important things in healing is acceptance and also acknowledging the pain you feel. Its ok to feel pain,
        its a healthy response that lets you know you lost something or someone that was important to you. I’ll be
        praying for God’s comfort to help surround you.


  • Lace says:

    I sent *her… Its her instead of him.

    • Nancy says:

      Hi. Thank you for this article. Im actually in the process of letting go of someone i should have let go a long time ago yet i find myself going back to him. Im hurting because i dont wanna let go. Im holding on too tight im hurting myself at the same time. Please help pray for me that i will be able to really do it this time. Relationship has been going downhill.

  • Hope Carla says:

    This has been helpful thanks alot I broke up with my boyfriend who we have been together for 3 years I really feel like I can’t get through it but I know God is with me through thick and thin and am trusting him

  • victor says:

    Hi I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 8 years now and I have been failing to break up with her because of fear, its not been easy for me but after reading your story I got a little strength and I am ready to face this giant…thanks a lot..I believe God is able to help everyone like me Amen

  • Anonymous says:

    Thank you Peter. May God continually and forever bless you.

  • Heart broken says:

    Your breakup story has helped me understand a Lil better of how to let go.. I loved this women with all my heart , and for two years I truly believe she loved me, the last couple months she grew distant from me, so now she tells me she just wants her freedom , I truly thought we were on our way for marriage, now my heart is so heavy, it hurts, I pray God will give me all I need to let go, because I so much want her, but she does not want me anymore… help me heal Lord…

    • Peter says:

      Hi Heart Broken,

      It’s really difficult going through a break up especially when its out of your control. Rejection hurts but even more when you’ve got so much invested in that person and really love and care for them.

      I would highly recommend connecting with a senior leader in your local church or pastor to talk things through. It’s beneficial in so many ways, being able to get your emotions out and also to get clarify, perspective, and guidance.

      You are also more then welcome to message me if you’d like to talk. Praying for you brother.


  • Priscilla says:

    Wow beautifully lifted my spirit through tears of joy. Really for your everything you written
    …I hope things for you are being filled now with enormous joy

    .thank you, and God bless you, always and forever sending massive love and beautiful white life surrounding you along with all our Angels…thank you again in Jesus name, amen

    • Peter says:

      Hi Priscilla,

      Really grateful that God touched you through this article and thank you so much for the kind words. Yes, definitely more at peace with God now and I think one of the big things that God always teaches us through difficult times is to trust in Him.

      In retrospect, I see through all of the pain that I experienced that ultimately my relationship with God grew.
      Praying for God’s blessings in your life!


    • Lorenza says:

      Hi I was married for 8 years. I been divorced for 1 year starting dating around the 7 month of my divorced now me and the guy been dating for 6 months. Sometimes I think about the good days me an my ex had. I wanna heal my broken heart. The guy I’m dating is a good guy always there for me he know I’m divorced. I love the guy I’m with so I’m trying to let go of a broken heart.

      • Jeff says:

        Dear Lorenza – I am struggling also with letting go of a broken heart. My love is still so strong after a year apart. I’m doing something wrong, something that is preventing me from healing. Did you finally let go? Can you share with me how you did it? Thank you for your kindness in helping see a future.

  • Grace says:

    I read the passages and is just filled with tears and possible sorrow.
    I have been with my boyfriend for close to 10 years. Its unfortunate that things changed and we didn’t managed to materialise any of our dreams together. I really miss and love him, but through that I’m aware that I have to let go and let God in instead..
    Please help pray for us- and especially for him to allow God to heal him too. Amen

    • Peter says:

      Hi Grace,

      I’m sorry to hear about you and your bf but encouraged to hear that you are trusting God throughout the process, I can’t say enough from my personal experiences at least that there is a purpose through all of this and God is with you during this difficult time.

      I will be praying for you both, if you need to talk or have any questions feel free to comment or message me.


  • anonymous17 says:

    im on this painful situation. getting married soon, my ex bf told me he still loves me and I realized I love him too. I told him if I love him and willing to cancel the wedding because I realized he is the one I want to be with. But sadly he decided to let go. he said he loves me but he cant ruin a wedding, he cant hurt people around us, and he cant put his trust back. he just decided to let go and leave me broken. he is now in a new relationship with another girl so he can move on. what do I do now? why did he told me he love if he cant fight for me? why did he left me when he knew that I loved him so much and willing to fight for him? I am now broken and confused.. Im praying to God to enlighten me so I can do what is right. please help me to pray and be healed. amen

  • Jackson says:

    Sometimes I tell myself it’s time to let go I been with this dude for three years and I’m just so tired and drained I didn’t think a person can take you through so much pain sleepless night’s crying night’s.. Not coming home till the next day and he say he with his friends… But I pray that God can let him see how much. I love and care for him… EVERYTIME I end things with him he text my phone saying he sorry and he miss his family and I let him Come back but his still repeats it after a day or two I’m just so tired

  • Jamie says:

    Hi Peter,
    Good Article
    Please pray for me (Jamie) and my husband Joffy..
    Things are really bad as we have not been together for the past 7 months.
    Please pray that we get no aullment. divorce as a final outcome.
    Please pray that Joffy will come back to my home willingly and reach out to my dad and people who can help us back together so this marriage can be Saved.
    Time running out, I only have 2 months left before the judge decides the final decision in this marriage.
    Thanks God bless you .

  • Jamie says:

    my husband Joffy walked out on me after his Green Card
    Please pray against the divorcing spirit in his family, his two brothers and aunt were divorced didn’t know till after Joffy married me.

  • Eunice Oni says:

    If one is in Christian courtship where no sex is allowed because the Bible speak against sex outside marriage,if there is a break up, yes it hurts but not much emotionally. You just put all your trust in God and move on. I’m a widowed of two years now but I don’t want to go into dating because most of these men are only after sex which I will never do. I’m so much into God and I’m enjoying it that I don’t want any lustful affairs to stain my life of holiness and purity till God sent me a man that will complement my spirituality.

  • Fady says:

    I have passed through a breakup .. she hurts me so much, she refused to continue for no reason after I proposed to her 20 days later …
    I can’t let go,
    She broke up with a sms at birthday party while i was at church praying for our relationship..
    My heart & mind just stalking about her all the time.

  • Elizabeth says:

    I want prayers to let go a relationship that did not materialised this man loves me like a sister but I’m in love with him I know the score between us but I cant let go I got the package but he saying not fair for him beacause he dont connect to me but we made love but he keep saying we are just friends I’m confused I want to let him go although I will suffer.. i trust in God He will give me the strength to let him go and bring me the right person in his right time. Amen.

  • Anonymous says:

    Thank you. After 15 years my marriage is over and while I’m heartbroken I can honestly say my faith in God has never been stronger. He is already winning battles for me.

  • Seyi says:

    Hi Peter. Reading your story has really helped me to see things in the right way. I have liked this guy- a gamely friend ogunesan mine right from the first day I heard about him, without even seeing him, and over time as we became friends my feelings for him developed and increased. I was always wondering if he felt the same way about me, and always felt insecure in our friendship, like he didn’t want to be my friend and all. I was always the one texting him first, calling him, sometimes he doesn’t respond to my texts on time. he forgets my birthday, even when I remind him ahead of time. and I never forget his birthday. so one time I became curious enough to ask him if he liked me, to my surprise he said he actually liked me at one time but he didn’t want to tell me because he thought it’d scare me off or appear too awkward. I was shocked by that because I believed in gave him every reason to believe I was interested in being more than a friend.

    When I realized that day that he was able to get over me. I decided to do her same, I did the wrong thing by telling him to delete my number giving him a disguised reason. I was so determined, that for a week I didn’t think about him, then he spoiled everything by texting me that I didn’t call him as I promised to. I was angry that he had not deleted my number as I told him too and lashed out at him. that marked the end of our friendship as he too thought I didn’t want to become his friend and was playing games with him, he also mentioned that it was one of the reached stopped liking me. I didn’t understand that though. since then our friendship has been on and off, and when we come back to being friends, it would be after I have pleaded with him. at a point I sent him a voice note to reveal my true feelings to him.

    He sent me back a text that he didn’t like me that way anymore. I felt so ashamed and told him we shouldn’t be friends anymore. he reluctantly agreed. but still that didn’t make me forget about him, in fact my feelings for him grew stronger. I went back to plead with him to become friends again and he agreed. I still want us to be more than friends, but he’s still as unresponsive as before, I don’t know how to make him like me again. it’s like I have listed my first self worth and integrity as a lady to him, and maybe he doesn’t respect me anymore. I can tell you I’m angry with him for all the pain he has caused me, but apparently not angry enough to get over him. believe I have tried to, I just don’t see any pint in being his friend if he doesn’t like me. I want to get over him and stop having feelings for him. I wasn’t him to know I can do without him. but it’s just so hard. please help me with this. how do I let go the Christian way?

    • Peter says:

      Hi Seyi,

      Thank you for sharing your story! Like any person that we begin to really like, develop feelings for, and then are hurt later by that person it takes time Seyi. Do you have a Christian mentor? Even a good friend that you can confide your feelings with? For me, like I mentioned in the article was my good friend, mentor, who also happened to be the Pastor for my local church.

      I know that isn’t always possible but I would really encourage seeking someone like that out to help you get through this. Continue to pursue God, read God’s word but do so with an open heart and mind that is receptive to hearing both the things you want to hear and the things you may not want to. I have no doubt you will be able to get through this Seyi.

      I will be praying for you and please keep me posted.

      Love and prayers,

  • Seyi says:

    *a family friend of mine, right from the first day I heard about him. this story has spanned 7 years now. I have been trying to get over him for that long. I’m in my final year at the university.

  • Mary says:

    Almost 4 years and he just left with no word, 2 months ago. He won’t talk to me or better yet tell me WHY!!! That’s all I want… why? He is already in another relationship…his soul mate he says. I’m trying so hard to move on but the pain is real. I’m trying hard to put it all in God’s hands but for some dumb ass reason I can’t let go. Never have I felt so useless.

    • Peter says:

      Hi Mary,

      Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to let go of someone, especially so soon! You were with him for 4 years as you say and then just left. Anytime you are in a relationship, you share roots together and when 1 person leaves those roots are torn up and it takes time for them to regrow and heal.

      Whenever I hear that someone suddenly left and the person had no idea why my first thought is, were there any warning signs prior but we’re missed? Did friends or family notice and say something? I think when the time comes, its something to definitely explore because usually there are warning signs albeit subtle.

      I think because its so fresh though still, just try not to beat yourself up, try to lean on God through these times but don’t be hard on yourself for having negative thoughts, feeling awful, wanting to go punch someone (but don’t act on it lol), etc. It’s perfectly normal and healthy to feel like you are in that situation.

      Your comment reminds me so much of the comments and messages I get which is always, why!? Why did they do that!? I mention it in the last part of this article I just wrote:

      I’ll definitely be praying for you Mary and hope God brings some peace and comfort to your heart. Feel free to message anytime and know that you are not alone.


  • Eric Burgess says:

    Peter, thanks for the article. I know it was probably written for non-married peeps but I still found a lot of encouragement from it. The truth is, my wife of 10 years wants a divorce and I want to reconcile. We are at a standstill. In the end, she will get the divorce she seeks because I have to honor it. There’s nothing I can do. I can’t change her mind, or her heart. Only the Holy Spirit can. At this point though, even that seems unlikely. So, I just have to keep my head up and lean on Him every day to help me turn those pages to see what’s next.

    • Peter says:

      Hey Eric,

      I’ve been meaning to write back to you so I apologize for the late response. Really sorry to hear about your divorce, I’m sure you have given a lot of thought and prayer over it. Is she open at all to Christian-based counseling? If you’d like to talk more your specific situation in private I’m available so just feel free to message the facebook page at any time. Really praying for you brother, it was hard enough being in a relationship and having to watch someone you care about leave. Must be 100x harder when you have known that person and are married as well.

      Praying for you,

  • Dylan J. says:

    The girl I love is leaving me.

    For the last year, I was very irresponsible with finances and contributed very little, but never was I unfaithful, not even in thought or emotion. And it’s broken my heart because I know that she has not been faithful. And it’s terrible. I haven’t ever even fully confronted her because it hurts too bad. I guess it doesn’t matter much anymore, as we are leaving each others lives, perhaps permanently. I am heartbroken. I will miss her and her beautiful poetry.

    BUT I know one thing for sure… “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” -Phillipians 4:13

    God bless you all.

    D. Jody

    • Peter says:

      Hi Dylan,

      Sorry to hear about your situation. If you don’t mind me asking, how long have you been together? How were you irresponsible with your finances? Which preceded the other, finances or her unfaithfulness? Just want to get a little more info about your specific situation, if you’d like to talk in private you can also message my facebook page. Very encouraged that you seem to be relying on that scripture, that is one of my favorites and one that I used A LOT when going through tough times.

      Will be keeping you in my prayers,

  • Angela,m says:

    My name is Angela, I have been married to my husband for 16 years and we have 4 kids.
    I would say I do love him, but I’m tired of being abused mentally, physically and verbally
    he is very controlling, and I normally do whatever I can to make him happy
    but im just at the point in my life where I just can’t do it anymore, I know god has a plan for me, but i feel like I’m not supposed to be with him, I feel my happiness might be somewhere else, but I don’t give up fast, I will take the battles with my husband but now its getting to tough for me mentally.

    I pray to god for him to give me strength to let go of my husband because I know its not good for the kids.

    • Peter says:

      Hi Angela,

      Any relationship where you are being abused, you need to get out. There is a zero tolerance for any abuse like what you are experiencing, your safety and the safety of your children is the immediate concern. Do you have some place you can go?

      Keep me posted please and I will be praying for your entire family,

  • Sara says:

    Thank you for this. I just had to let my twin flame go. It was who Jesus told me it would work out with, but right now he chose someone else in his heart. I am very confused and hurt. He was quite literally the love of my life in my soul and I searched and found him after 30 years of this life, but this ended terribly. The pain is truly unbearable. But I’m ready to let go. I deserve someone who chooses me.

  • Anonymous says:

    Hello My story is different. I was in a same sex relationship with another girl, We met when I was 22 and she was 23. She was like my best friend, we were happy I had a lot going for myself but it all kinda came crashing down I’ve always been a goal oriented person but I kinda let them go after we met I was so wrapped up in her. I thought she was a good person,very sweet. but a year or so in our relationship I had became very negative and down because things were not going as planned. Everything I did it was for her I payed all the bills in the apartment but I was also finically iresponsble spend money consistently on things that I didn’t need. I have always believed in God and prayed. But my belief in god wasn’t as strong as it is today. And i know that people who don’t understand the word of the lord like to make up a God of their choosing and that’s just what I did. I knew it was a sin to be homosexual but at the time I was not thinking to hard about it my ex didn’t talk about God that much and if she did it was in a negative way. I know our relationship was ment to end because it was not right, an obviously we both had things to learn form it. Last year she end up leaving me for a guy she met online and was talking to behind my back. I was hurt and sad because I really loved her and I still do just In a different way. If she is happy I’m happy, I’m not mad she left me for a guy because it was God’s plan In the end but I was upset at the way she did it. I was heartbroken and hurt I thought about killing myself but i know that was not the way. After the break up all I could do was pray because I had no hope. And I must say he has changed my life for the better I’m so much closer to him I read my Bible almost everyday and I no longer have the homosexual desires I use to, I have a much better job and my mental health is much better I still have my days where I think about her and miss her but I just pray. I do understand the possibility of being alone the rest of my life but I think it’s ok because God should be my first love. I hope you all pray for me to keep overcoming my struggles. And I will also pray for everyone in this post in past and future. God Bless!

  • Sara says:

    It’s not a sin to be homosexual. Please don’t listen to that rubbish, we are all souls, the soul has no sex when we die. Everyone has lived multiple lifetimes and been men and women in different lives. You fall in love with someone’s soul and the sex doesn’t matter. This is where I have faith, and I’m very awakened and awakened people know that religion is made by man. It’s not god’s true word, that’s why every religion varies. Bc it’s a lie. God loves all his children, and if he made a child guy he loves them and made them that way. My father is gay, and he went to almost suicidal Bc he couldn’t fight his soul, until god told me he loves him for who he made him to be. It’s sad people get brainwashed. I don’t follow religion for that reason. It’s bullcrap. I am a firm believer in Christ and god, but not religion for this very reason.

  • Sara says:

    God also has brought together MANY twin flames, which is a divine and holy partnership centered in god, that are gay. So please let this go. Follow your soul, that’s god speaking to you. You don’t need a bible to tell you god’s words, he speaks them to you daily. And he wouldn’t make you something he doesn’t love. Love is LOVE

  • Anonymous says:

    Thank you for the response Sara God bless you.

  • Ruth says:

    Im going through this right now. I want to trust God so desperately but I am so sad and so devestated. Please pray for me.

  • Alison says:

    I am a recovering alcoholic, 2 years sober. I have messed up more than I can say. I’ve been in an on again off relationship with this guy for 5 years. 3 years of it I was a raging alcoholic. I treated him awful, but he stayed with me. And let me come back to him many times. I take full responsibility for all the harm I have done. I have worked hard rebuilding this relationship and for awhile it’s been ok sometimes bad and good. He has expressed to me that he doesn’t think it is ever going to work because of the pain I have caused through the years. But, there’s red flags there with him also waving at me. I know God doesn’t want this for me, us. This guy is angry with me and I hadn’t done anything, lately to provoke this anger. He is saying now, he’s only on the defense. And it could be about any little thing. That, if I can handle the relationship as it is, fine. But if I can’t handle it, to move on. I think I’ve done everything to try and heal our relationship. I know God wants me out. I feel His presence. But, I simply cannot or will not let go. And i think it has something to do with my additive personality. But, I love this man. He can’t love me back. He pretty much is leaving the decision up to me. I know I should move on. I don’t know how. Thanks for any suggestions.

    • Peter says:

      Hi Alison,

      First off I think you should be very proud that you are 2 years sober. It certainly sounds like there was a lot of hurts inflicted by both of you during your relationship. Have you at all sought out Biblical counseling? It really sounds like that could help where you would get individual counseling and then come together for couple counseling after that. Let me know your thoughts.

      Praying for you in the meantime.


  • Dan says:

    Thank you. It was calming

  • John says:

    I have been with my wife for 27 years and married 22 1/2 years when she said that she wanted a separation. We have a 17 year old son. I moved out in April 2017. In October 2017 I was served divorce papers. We are now toward the end of finishing the divorce paperwork. Life will never be the same but I continually pray to God to guide me and help me. I have my good and bad days but if it wasn’t for God I truly believe I would not be here today. I just ask for prayers to help me move on. Thank you

    • Peter says:

      Gosh my heart breaks after hearing your story John. I can’t even imagine how God’s heart must also break for you as well. Sending prayers up for strength and comfort for you and your entire family.

  • Ruth says:

    Thank you for this article. My ex boyfriend and I dated back in high school and we dated for more than a year. One day, he just stopped loving me. He was following his feelings. He said he wanted to be alone. He broke up with me in 2016. This year in April, he came back saying he feel this pain in his heart and that he regretted his decision. He told me he was a better person when he was with me. I have been waiting for him since the break up and I never stopped loving him so when he came back I was so just so happy and relieved. I really thought he changed this time. I thought our relationship would last this time but all of a sudden he told me to give him a break and that he is confuse at the moment. So I didnt know what I should do. Yesterday I texted him if he was okay with breaking up and he said, “ya I guess.” Right now I feel like he’s following his feelings again. He’s not very Godly but… I feel so hurt and betrayed. Again. I didn’t think he actually wanted a break up. I thought he just needed time alone. But when he said the things I fear he’d say, it just crushed me. So please pray for me that this time I truly move on and let him go. He doesn’t feel the same way I do and while I chose to be with him, he chose to let me go.

    • Peter says:

      Hi Ruth,

      I’m sorry you are going through that, rejection by someone we care about is so painful and it sounds like it happened to you twice..I’ll definitely be praying for you. I hope this scripture provides you some comfort.

      “May your unfailing love be my comfort, according to your promise to your servant.”
      -Psalm 119:76

  • Aaron Monteiro says:

    Hey Peter

    Whats your story now? Has God put someone new in your life?

    • Peter says:

      Hey Aaron,

      Thanks for asking! Yes, God did bless me with a special someone for several years now and I’m very grateful she is a part of my life. When I wrote the article I was referencing a time in my life that was many years ago so a lot has changed since then.

      I’m really glad my story has has helped others even if its to provide a little comfort to those who also are going through a similar situation and to know there is hope on the other side of that dark tunnel.

      Hope you have a wonderful sunday!


  • Alexander says:

    I need someone in my life I’m Alex.

  • Myki says:

    You know Peter, tonight I am crying and asking Jesus to take away my pain brought by envious heart I have with my friends who are currently in their 7- year relationship. The guy and I had a mutual understanding before, I knew he was starting to fall in love with me. But it wasn’t right, he has a girlfriend living across another ocean. I ended up drifting away because of my fear I might break other woman’s heart because of me. Until he met his current girlfriend who had a boyfriend too. They both ended their relationships they had and pursue each other.
    After 6 years he confessed to me that he really did like me but I drifted away and he kept asking himself why. I told him my reason.
    Knowing that they both cheated and seeing them happy, although I know I always wish them happiness, I can’t deny that I feel extremely sad.

    And this article made me just feel right atleast tonight.

  • Vinz says:

    God Showed Me Girl To Marry But She Has Married Somebody Else What Should Ido?

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi Peter – my boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me very recently. We’re in our early 20s but had always been very open about everything, including marriage. It wasn’t until recently that he started becoming more religious (he is Muslim as is his family) but in doing so he became more distant from me. I wanted to meet him half way – understand his religion, possibly convert, but in the end he ended our relationship because he wants to marry someone who is of the same culture, religion, family background. It’s hard to let go knowing that besides the differences in culture, religion, and family background, we were a good match for each other. And even though I was willing to do everything in my power to minimize the differences, he would not allow me to do so. I am heartbroken and hope that God will bring someone to my life who accepts me for who I am.

  • Danielle says:

    The pain is real. I met my ex when he was 11, and I was 12. We’ve been together on and off for 10 years, being best frie ss through the times when we “broke up.” I’ve always loved and believed in God. But for years, God told me not to be in that relationship, but I didnt wanna hear it cause dispite the troubles, hes the only one that knows all of me, and has been with me through the heartbreaks and trauma of my life. But I’m serious about God this time, and had to let go. Unfortunately we live together, as I have no family besides my sick mom who lives with us, and no money to leave. Yet it’s still so painful cause i grew up with him, and I will forever love him till i die, but I know God has someone better. Not anytime soon I hope, as I feel I really need to focus on myself and the Lord.

  • Carolyn Carothers says:

    I have never felt so broken as I do right now. I truly believed this person who just recently summarily dropped me in a text message was who God wanted me to be with. He said “I never ever want to hear from you again. Have a great life.” Needless to say I was devastated, shocked and hurt beyond words. He did not have to say he didn’t want to hear from me ever again because I could not muster enough strength to even utter a word. It has now been 8 days since he sent me that text and I cannot say his name without crying. All I know is that reading your story relieved some of the pain and I am constantly praying that God will grant me the peace that I need to quiet my soul. I love you Lord – I trust you and I know you only want good things for all of your children. Amen!

  • liza says:

    Hi Peter, I’ve been touched the way you have said about how to overcome the brokenness. I was in a relationship for 10 years and I did a mistake where anyone would get angry and he broke up with me. From the other side I feel more than my mistake he would have stood with me whatever the mistake was he would not break our relationship cause 10 yrs is not an easy way. I had already told my parents about us and they were ready for our wedding the only thing is his parents were not ready yet and he had said he will council his parents but till then this mistake happened from my hand and it’s too hard for me to come out of this. I pray daily and read the word sometimes out loud and suddenly sometime I’m in depression and not able to move on. I have to face my exam this, last week I don’t know how should I do that and I’m worn out and tired now please pray for me a humble request and guide me.

  • Carol says:

    My circumstance is different from most here. I was contacted by my daughters friends in college telling me that they were afraid she was depressed and suicidal over an abusive relationship she was in with a grad student and also that she was using drugs. I rushed to her but was rejected by her and told to never contact her again . It’s been 5 years now and I haven’t seen or heard from her. She has even rejected any contact with her dad, best friends, her brother, aunts uncles cousins, literally everyone from her life before the abusive boyfriend became a part of her life. I know letting go of your child isn’t a natural prayer or request but I’ve no other recourse. I’m heartbroken and worried and becoming physically ill from worry. Please God help me to let go and concentrate on the loving family who remains in my life.

  • Cris says:

    Thank you Peter. This article really speaks to me. Your past experience is almost exactly what I am facing. Just that we did it peacefully and became friends again. She is my best friend even before we were together.

  • People need to mend their ways and return to God now more than ever to avoid suffering from His rightful judgement.

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  • Anonymous says:

    had to break off a relationship of 10 years (knew each other for 30) we were HS sweet hearts it was off and on and I just realized it was toxic and he wasnt gonna change too many lies and deceit, when you have lost trust and respect theres nothing left, love is not enough, and it hurts because he was my best friend, i guess we were just use to the all the drama after 30 years, but life goes on ! i have to trust God.

  • gladys gladys says:

    When i contacted kubala i was not having an idea of what to expect but after proper explanation and i followed the instruction that He gave me and my marriage was reveal back and restored, i guess whoever that is in need for relationship/marriage help should contact Dr kubala at any time through this detail: (dr.kubala@outlook. com)

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