By a couple married 40 years…
Commitment: Lifetime together, divorce is not an option or a joking matter with us.
Forgiveness: We are intentionally forgetful of each other’s frequent failures.
Humility: We don’t believe we deserve each other–in the good sense!
Dating: 1,2,3 — one night out each week, just the two of us, three hours together.
Sex: We never say no to each other, and never say yes to anyone else.
Prayer: Everyday while holding hands.
Spending: No debts and no secrets.
Disagreements: Speak the truth in love with the only goal of “we won” not “I won”.
Criticism: Don’t put down, but make realistic requests instead.
Compliments: Build-up, and believe it cannot be overdone.
Kids: Lovingly prepared them to leave us as we prioritized cultivating our closeness.
Loyalty: Speak positively, never negatively, about each other to others.
Interests: We take an interest in each another’s interests.
Differences: We respect them and don’t try to remove them.
Church: Every week we worship, tithe, serve and invite–together!
Best Friends: Do whatever it takes to make sure that’s what we are.
Friends: Mostly couples, no opposite sex, and we each have veto rights.
Jesus: As we love Him more we love each other more.
What are some of your keys to a successful and fruitful marriage? Leave your comments below!